That has made me realize that I’m not exactly 100% happy with the direction this site was heading in. Sure, I like writing about my opinions. I love to share my journey as a transgendered person and discuss my views on disability rights. I enjoy sharing pictures and moments from my life. But…I want to take things a step further.

I’d like to discuss the types of projects I’m getting involved in. I am going to school for acting/performance. I want to discuss hot button issues, but do it through videos. I’d like to take you on my journey as I go back to school after six years out. That’s why I’m planning to be more proactive, and that’s why I’ve completely changed the layout for Dominick Evans Online.

I hope you enjoy the changes to this site and that you’ll keep reading as I explore new avenues through this site.

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Just looking over Chris’ blog makes me realize all I’m missing out on by not being focused. Sure, I have other obstacles standing in my way, but maybe if I was a little more focused, some of those would disappear.

For instance, I’d been planning to meet up with Chris when he came to Detroit last week, but I had no transportation to the city, so not only did I have to let Chris down, I let myself down. I can’t help but think, maybe if I’d been a little more focused, I’d have had the extra cash to rent an accessible van. I can’t guarantee that would have happened, but right now, I do have to what if.

Chris Brogan once gave me the best compliment I’ve received as a blogger. He said I had potential. Coming from a man as successful as Chris, it was an honor. To have him think I have potential is a big thing, but I have to wonder if perhaps, in the time since he has said that, if I’ve let illness, laziness, and other things squander away that potential. I haven’t meant to, and even as I sit here, my arms bone tired, barely able to reach the right keys to type due to a very long day up and about, I have to believe there is more I can do…more I can offer the readers of my blogs.

So, I’m going to be trying, in the coming months to hone in on my potential. I don’t want to let Chris or anyone else down. I most especially don’t want to let my readers down. Of course, I have to ask you the same question. Is there potential to do something spectacular in your life, within you, that you are squandering away without a second thought? Is there a way you can tap into this potential? I know that all of you who read this have the ability to be spectacular, or as Chris Brogan says, ‘to be rockstars!’

My question is, don’t you think we should get focused? Isn’t it time to turn our lives around and stop missing out on the opportunities we’d love to experience? I’m ready to go back to living life. I hope you are with me. That way we won’t have to take this journey alone! Let me know your thoughts on this by leaving a comment.

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The movie Quid Pro Quo was one I had to review. I was interested in the movie because it was supposed to be about a paralyzed reporter who gets involved with an underground group of BIID sufferers, while investigating a story. I should warn you that this contains spoilers, so if you want to see this movie, you probably shouldn’t continue reading this.

The entire movie, I felt this tightness in my chest. It was if every fiber of my being was screaming how wrong this was. Vera Farmiga’s entire performance creeped me out. I’m not even sure I can watch The Departed again without seeing her in this freaky light. Her character is obsessed with becoming paralyzed, and she has this crazy fetish for braces, wheelchairs, and having sex with a paralyzed guy, without taking him out of his chair.

The entire emphasis is on the fact that people want to be paralyzed or disabled due to psychological events that happen in their lives, and for many, this is a sexual thing, a fetish. Sure, those with BIID say that isn’t the way that it is, but then they go and post how putting on diapers makes their willies happy. Many of them get their jollies from “pretending” and the wannabes are as bad about this as the pretenders are.

All of the stories I’ve read about those who claim to have BIID talk about sad, pathetic childhoods or overbearing parents, abusive parents, abusive priests or psychologists, and the list goes on. In essence, it is as if these people feel inadequate due to events in their life, so they associate it with being in a wheelchair, being paralyzed, or amputating a limb.

In a 60 Minutes expose on the subject, many of those who amputated, felt remorse. They changed their tunes after amputation, when it was too little, too late. The persistent feeling of wanting to be disabled didn’t wan nor did their life become magically better. For some, they became even more depressed, now truly understanding what being disabled meant. Don’t I have a right to be offended by this, because I didn’t have a choice in the matter of becoming disabled, yet people think its cool or a fad?

The most disappointing aspect of Quid Pro Quo is the fact the paralyzed man isn’t really paralyzed. Sure, he didn’t know he was only kidding himself, but this is utterly unrealistic. Some doctor would have caught this and it kind of put a damper on the entire tone of the movie. While the BIID sufferers were psychotic in their desire to make themselves “disabled”, many of them weren’t willing to take the final step and become disabled, even if they had the means and opportunity to do so. The paralyzed reporter’s miraculous recovery is a little too rainbows and sunshine for me. Perhaps, a movie that truly explores paralysis and the normalcy those of us with disabilities can have in our lives, will one day be produced.

Either way, the only good this movie does is emphasize the psychological problems those with BIID face, and open up the discussion for why this should even be considered a logical medical condition and not a neurosis, fetish or aspect of perspective mental illness. Treatment should involve medication and behavioral modification, not hacking off limbs or making someone paralyzed with medication.

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Become an IMDB News Desk Publisher

What IMDB isn’t always good for is using it to promote yourself or your business. Unless you know how to promote yourself the right away. First, you have to make sure you’re not spamming IMDB. This is an important rule because you want IMDB to work for you, not against you. You also don’t want to get band, because then you can’t use IMDB at all!

Depending on your website, you may actually be featured on IMDB. If your website covers film news, reviews, and more, and it is consistently updated, IMDB may approve you to become part of their “news desk” team. If you write about a specific movie or actor, then everyone browsing IMDB will have access to your movie review on that movie or actor’s page.

You can sign up to become a news desk publisher by clicking here. You must be a registered user of IMDB before you can try and submit your information. This doesn’t have to be your only way of getting your website out there.

Using your IMDB Profile Signature

You can put your website in your profile/forum signature. I’ve had as many as three websites listed. I don’t recommend any more than that. Your actual signature can only hold one or two urls at the most (it has a character limit), but you can edit your signature on individual posts. I generally list li-reviews.com and li-kids.com. However, when I was posting on the Rory O’Shea was Here forum, a movie about Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, I also included links to the page for the non-profit organization I’m trying to start, Muscular Dystrophy Patients United. If your website is relevant to the topic, I don’t see someone calling you out as a spammer for posting your URL.

Making your Link Relevant

When I do reviews of certain movies or television shows, I’ll sometimes post the link to my review on that particular movie’s forum. If there is a topic about a DVD coming out, especially ones that asks about the quality of the new DVD, if I’ve done a review of it  I’ll say something to the effect of:

“I just reviewed this DVD at LI Reviews. You can see everything the DVD has to offer”.

Then I can post the link to my review.

Being a reviewer has a bigger advantage posting wise on IMDB. If I owned a Debt Reduction company, I couldn’t flaunt my link anywhere. I might put it in my signature, but it’d be something that I tried not to pay too much attention to when I was posting. I wouldn’t want people to think I was just there to promote my website. IMDB can be valuable, but it also can be abused, so try not to be the one abusing the service.

Make sure your Forum Posts are High Quality

You represent yourself and your blog/website/business by what you type. IMDB forums are a haven for underage, dramatic whiners. Every single movie page I’ve ever visited has at least one bozo saying “This movie sucked”. I’ve seen people post about how movies like The Godfather are overrated. To each their own, but many just post these arguments to fight with others. You’re there to present yourself as someone knowledgeable about movies and films. Getting involved in the pettiness, especially when it is just some 14 year old running their mouth, makes you look bad.

When you post in the forums, remember to make sure you actually have something to say. If you show you know what you’re talking about when it comes to a certain TV show or movie then people will begin to respect your opinion and they might just visit that website in your signature, as a result.

Using IMDB doesn’t have to be rocket science. This isn’t going to be a site that will work well for everyone, but if you love a certain television show or movie, do reviews for movies/DVDs, or just like to talk about certain actors you can capitalize on your knowledge and opinion by using IMDB to boost your website’s visibility!

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When I mentioned what topics I can discuss in a public setting, I wasn’t looking for people to rush right up and start booking me for speaking engagements. It was merely a casual conversation I was having with the readers of this blog. I was essentially saying, I can talk on a wide and diverse set of topics. That being said, I believe in the “speak what you know” mantra.

For example, I won’t ever become a public speaker on a topic like economics. I don’t know much about economics, so I wouldn’t be qualified, nor would I attempt to be qualified, to speak on this topic. While I’m sure there are groups of people who clamor for a great economic-based speaker, I am not one of them nor do I understand this audience. I can only speak on topics that I know about and those with which I have personal experience.

Within the broad list of topics I mentioned on my previous blog post, I understand that I would have to come up with specific discussion topics and a niche for each. I get I have to sell myself and what I am talking about, because I’ve been in the public speaking arena since I was 10 years old. I know that nobody is going to listen to you if they don’t find the topic worthwhile, engaging, and possibly even relatable. Nobody wants to hear a dry, boring speech that has no value or purpose. I get that. This is where the “Speak What they Want” part comes in.

If I’m speaking at a convention where the topic is child abuse, I’m not going to talk about being transgendered. It has no place in the speech unless it directly relates to being abused because I was transgendered. People don’t want to hear what you’re saying if it doesn’t relate to the topic that is to be discussed. Still, you can’t speak only what people want. If someone wanted me to talk about how I think child abuse is okay in some households because it really isn’t abuse, it’s corporal punishment, I would turn down the speaking engagement. I’m not so desperate to become a public speaker that I’m willing to talk about any old topic, especially those that I don’t believe are true or viable to my life or perspective.

So, I guess what I’m saying is that when you speak what you know and it relates to the topic on which you’re supposed to speak then you’re going to be speaking what they want. The audience will be receptive to you and your story. You can’t not speak what you know because then you look like you’re unprepared, uneducated and unqualified to truly speak on the topics your public speaking engagements cover.

That being said, this could also apply to blogging. How many guys/girls do you see out there writing a blog on a topic they don’t know anything about? Sure, plenty of bloggers write about what they think will be interesting to their audience. I wouldn’t blog or give a speech if I didn’t think the audience would be receptive to the message. That’s just common sense.

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Some of the new shows have already started and some of the returning shows are now on air.

Within this first week of Fall television I’ve come to realize the following things:

-Guys can be addicted to Gossip Girl, too
-The writing for GG is what makes it good
-Blair’s hot
-90210‘s premiere wasn’t as great as expected
-the writing wasn’t solid, the dialogue sucked, and so did some of the young actors
-Next week’s 90210 looks more promising
-Sons of Anarchy f’n rocks man!
-Katey Segal plays an evil bitch and I like her that way
-Jax kind of resembles Brad Pitt at certain moments
-The season premiere of Criminal Minds (Dexter/Grey’s/Eli Stone) can’t come fast enough
-The writer’s strike still sucks
-Big Love should be on now!
-I can’t wait to watch Life on Mars (Eleventh Hour/True Blood/Sanctuary/Fringe/Crusoe)
-If the show has J.J. Abrams name attached to it, you watch it!
-Lost won’t be on until mid-season. Boo!
-What happened to the CW?
-Some shows actually look decent (Privileged, Valentine, and Easy Money)
-If things don’t work out and Dexter kills you, you’re bound to become a Goddess in your next life!
-I need to watch Dancing with the Stars just once
-I want to see Chloris Leachman take down Susan Lucci
-I didn’t even know Chloris was still alive?
-I’m wondering if they’ll feel bad Susan didn’t win those 25 other best actress Emmy’s and give her the Dancing crown to make up for it?
-I hate soap operas!
-My mother in law loves them
-Especially All My Children
-She loves Susan Lucci
-She doesn’t have very good taste!

That’s about it for now. I’m looking forward to recapping some of the new shows out there. You can check that out on LI Reviews.

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